Dan and I are celebrating 11 years today! I was so excited about it that I didn't even realize it was our anniversary until I was about to book something on my calendar and saw it. Now, before you judge, I am a bit sleep deprived and I'm not used to celebrating my anniversary in the winter. ha ha! As for celebrating, I'm hoping we can get some yummy take away (kiwi for take out) and enjoy a quiet evening before our 9 pm bedtime. Exciting, huh?
Miles will be 7 weeks in a couple of days. He is now tracking us and has found his voice. He is cooing and really responds to a high pitched "awe" that falls low. He still hasn't smiled but I feel like I'm not face to face with him as much as I was with Julian. A nurse said that is good, he needs his space. First time parents usually hover too much and their babies are usually overstimulated. Well, she made me feel better even if it wasn't true. I did hover over Julian, but the kid never let me put him down.
Miles still sleeps a lot during the day and his cold (that has last 3 weeks now) is bothering him mostly at night. We actually had a trip to the hospital because our midwife was concerned about his breathing. He had retractions (indrawing) in the ribs. I've been watching him and he hasn't had any nasal flaring or blueness and the breathing was worse after stripping him down and doing an assessment. We still went to the "urgent care" since I err on the "don't go see a doctor unless you're dying" side and knew I should go. When we were finally seen, a nurse came in, looked at him sleeping and said, "The plan is that I'll do is assessment, check his ops (observations = vitals), then a doctor will see him and we'll go from there. Ok? First I'm going to grab a cuppa (cup of tea), is that ok?" Umm, well, my baby is supposedly in some sort of respiratory distress and you wouldn't want to at least assess him first? Even an O2 sat? I said, "ok" instead of what I should have said. She was pleasant and very good, but I wasn't happy with having to wait for her cuppa to be finished. I think I'd rather be told that she was busy. He was fine. O2 saturation was 100% and he was perfect and sleeping. Now, they didn't hear how junky he was when he wakes, but that's not a problem. The doc said that there is a long last cold this winter and to bring him back if he didn't feed well or at any sign of a fever. He's finally getting better, but the secretions that settle at the back of his throat at night are hard on all of us. Poor Miles can't cough well to clear them and he's miserable until he calms down. He's getting better though.
He is gaining weight...slowly but surely. He is feeding a lot more as of late, so maybe he'll make up for lost time.
Julian is 26 months and a week. I've been a bit concerned with him. We've been trapped in the house with really cold, rainy weather. He has done great on our outings, but I think he is going through a transition. All he wants to do is cuddle and have his pacifier. I don't know if I mentioned before, but I think his 2 yr molars are on their way, so he gets the paci now anytime he wants it. It's amazing how great he is going to the store or anywhere if he has it. I ask for it at different times and he's pretty good at giving it up if he's not in one of his really cuddly modes.
I was even wondering if he had some sort of depression. He just isn't interested in anything. He does play, but not as much as usual. Thankfully he has been great with Miles and helps me. He loves work. He likes to have chores that aren't forced on him. I got fun soap, so he likes to climb the ladder and wash his hands. He cleans up the table and himself after eating...if I don't forget and just do it. Of course it's not a great job, but I have to remember that these things build him up and I need to not just get a task done.
We've been talking about inside and outside voice since he learned about screaming. I never tell him to be quiet around Miles since someone told me it doesn't matter to the baby. We did say that screaming is for outside, but that was a mistake since the neighbors probably think I'm murdering him. He screams and then says, "I'm using my outside voice." ha ha. He is cute.
Our favorite phrase is "please have me..." He got that from me saying, "please hand me". Julian has been really getting the pronouns down well. He'll correct himself if he says the wrong one.
Pushing buttons
When J is tired, which seems quite often, but not cuddley, he will push the boundaries. I've gotten really upset at times but realize that whatever the situation, it was not worth jeopardizing our relationship. I want to demonstrate and teach unconditional love. I want J to know that no matter what he does or doesn't do...I love him. And no matter how he performs or doesn't perform...I love him. No matter how I mess up or how I don't measure up, God loves me and my failures have all been paid for on the cross.
I was struggling with this concept because I felt as if I was only praising him when he did a good job and disciplining him when he made unwise choices. I want him to know that I always love him no matter what. My friend suggested a great read, "loving your kids on purpose" by Danny Silk and the first few chapters have been amazing. It is about this concept and applying biblical principals and addressing the Old Covenant way of punishment before Jesus paid for our sins. I'm so thankful for it, but now to see it practiced in our home will take some creativity and energy. Thankfully I have a God who is for me and all I need to do is ask for strength and wisdom.
Well, nap time is almost over for both boys. I'm suppose to be napping but I enjoy blogging. Yup, they're up.
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