more Julian

Last night I was getting ready to see friends.  I put on makeup and did my hair (put it in a braid) and Julian said, "You're so beautiful Mommy."  I was shocked.  I looked at Dan and he said, "he didn't get that from me."  I replied, "I know" and laughed.  What a precious.

He hasn't been eating well for the past 2 weeks.  Two nights ago we had shrimp stirfry and he loved it. Julian ate so much shrimp, but I didn't think it was any problem.  I was at a meeting and got a call from Dan about J barfing.  Poor guy puked for 1.5 hours.  Everything was covered but he was fine and slept the rest of the night.  I sure had a lot of laundry.

I was reading an article that someone posted about the progression of pencil grasp and not to push your kid to hold the pencil like an adult.  I never taught J to hold it like that, but he does hold it like an adult and uses his wrist...very interesting.

My birthday drama:
I think I mentioned that Julian hasn't been sharing very well for the past month and that he had MAJOR meltdowns with two different playdates at our house.  He shook and screamed when they touched his toys.  I've been avoiding anyone coming over to play since.  We went to a friend's house on Monday and J did a great job sharing their toys, but the older kid is very passive and the one year old was distracted easily.

Then another friend wanted to come over to say happy bday.  I was very nervous about it.  She arrived and the boys were ok at first but then it got bad.  They were wailing on each other.  The other mom has a very different parenting philosophy than I do and I can't just ignore them.  I know I stressed her out and wasn't much fun to be around.  It was sad when she left because it took me hours to chill out because I didn't know how to deal with Julian.  He was defending himself, but I do not want him to resort to physical violence.  I'm fine with him wrestling with friends, but not hitting out of anger and aggression.  Maybe I don't know anything about boys, but I just can't handle it right now.  He's not like this with anyone else, but has always been like this with this friend.  It's very hard.

Good news:
He is still loving the playcentre and went for a walk with our neighbor (teenage girl who comes over a lot) with out me, but didn't go more than 2 blocks...but this is progress.