Julian did great with potty training until our vacation to Australia. He wore big boy undies everyday and had no problems going to the toilet. If he was watching tv or into an activity he had accidents, but overall I was happy with a great start.
I thought that there would be some time to practice in Oz, but there wasn't. I kept asking if he'd use the toilet but he was too nervous. I think just being out of his normal environment led to only diaper and pacifier use. If he didn't have the paci in his mouth he was asking for it. It made me crazy, so Dan and I discussed it and prepped J that when we returned home he wasn't going to get the paci anymore.
We are on day 2 of no paci. Yesterday was SOOOO COLD (for summer and winter...40s) and we had just come back from mid 80s. We were stuck inside playing and watching movies. J asked and cried for the paci often. At dinner time he had a complete meltdown. He refused to eat, asked to be alone in his room, ended up getting a step stool and trying to get into the closet that I put the paci into. I took it out and "got rid" of them. Dan and I wanted to console him but he wanted to hunt for the paci. After giving up and panting for breath I tried to console him. Through jagged breaths he pushed my arms away and said, "Mommy, I just want you to leave me alone." I cried and squeezed him again.
I grieved a bit for all the times I didn't want him to want me when he was a baby and toddler. I grieved that I had taken the one sole comfort he has in this world and had nothing to offer him (besides praying, other toys, blankie, etc.). My baby is growing up fast.
We put on a movie for him since he refused to eat. After 5 minutes he was out and still gasping for breaths after the hard cry. Dan changed him and got him into bed without him waking. He was OUT. He woke up at 5 with his brother. Ugh...Oz is 3 hours ahead of us so they should have slept in...stink. I'm just glad he slept.
Dan is now putting him to bed (night #2) without the paci. We'll see how it goes. Today was much better, but he still asked for his paci, but no meltdowns or ugly cries. I'm hoping tomorrow will be magical...ha ha. Some say 3 days, but I'm just hoping he finds a replacement something. I'm pushing a stuffed cow on Miles. I was tempted to take his paci at this time too, but it's just so helpful to get him to sleep.
Back to potty training, we're giving this paci stuff a chance to settle in and then we'll start the training again. J loved being a big boy so hopefully he'll want to soon. For now he keeps pushing and saying he's a baby and wants to be a baby forever so he can have the paci. Poor guy.
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